You must have patience with women by giving them the time and space to come to you, at their own pace. I know this can be very difficult sometimes, when you’re emotionally engaged and want things to happen right now. You want her to respond to your text now, you want her to agree to a date now, or you want to be in a relationship with her now. The thing is, women are much more patient about these sort of things. In most cases, they’re not in any rush to get to the finish line the way men are.
Most of you that I talk to ask me questions like, “Why doesn’t she want a relationship?”, “Why won’t she make dates?” “Why hasn’t my ex reached out yet?” “How come she hasn’t slept with me yet?” The answer to all those questions is because she’s not ready for that yet. When you’re trying to force things along, or manipulate the situation, you’re really only making things worse and causing them to move slower.
Impatience Communicates Neediness
This is one of the biggest issues men struggle with, including myself. I used to be so impatient with just about every aspect when it comes to women and relationships. At the time, I had no idea how much this was hurting my game. I was impatient about the amount of time it took her to respond to my calls or texts, or how long it was taking to make it an exclusive relationship. I was impatient about the whole process, from getting her number to relationships, and everything in between. Looking back, it was really no wonder that women were reluctant about getting involved with me.
When you’re trying to push things along at YOUR pace, it’s actually causing her to feel uncomfortable. The guys who do this are also the same guys that become controlling, abusive or turn into stalkers. Your impatience communicates your neediness. You feel that you must force her because, deep down, you don’t believe that you’re good enough for her to come to you on her own. I realize that’s a tough pill to swallow for some of you, but if you really think about it, you will see that it’s true. This one of the times when she will begin to back away and become uncertain about you, which is why you must have patience with women. I’m sure that makes sense after learning this.
Relationship Focus = Rejection
Your impatience with women also communicates that you’re relationship-focused. Not only is this feminine energy, which is a turn-off for her, but it’s also handing over all the power to her. She now knows that you want a relationship with her and she’s going to dangle that over your head. She knows that she has you wrapped around her little finger and she’s totally in control. This will only cause you to convey more weakness, as you’re trying to force things. This is yet just another reason why your patience with women will pay-off.
Patience With Women Is Important
If you can train yourself to out-wait her and let her come to you when she’s ready, your relationship is going to be much more effortless and loving. The relationship is also more likely to last much longer. In fact, it’s imperative that you train yourself to have patience with women if you want healthy relationships. It’s all part of having emotional self control and loving her in such a way that she’s feels free. Loving her isn’t about possessing her, it’s about giving her the freedom to come and go as she pleases.
This is yet another reason why it’s so important that you are focused on your purpose in life; your goals, your passions and having options with other women. Contrary to popular belief, this is much more important than her and having a relationship with her. That’s masculine energy and she will be be much more attracted to you because you are more focused on yourself first. You’re not going to be so concerned about she’s doing or why it’s taking her so long. You’re busy with your own thing. There’s no pressure on her. She feels safe, she feels comfortable. You’re not trying to possess her this way. And when she does choose you, she did it because she feels it, she wants it. It’s not because she was pressured or manipulated into it. It communicates your high value.
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