A few of you guys have contacted me because your girlfriend ghosted you. For those of you that don’t know what ‘ghosting’ means, it’s when someone disappears on you with no explanation. They’ve stopped contacting you, they’ve stopped responding to you and you have no clear idea as to why. They’ve turned into a ghost–poof!
This is a very rude, cruel and disrespectful way to cut someone out of your life. It doesn’t happen often, but it’s done enough that they’ve come up with a name for it. I’ve been ghosted before and it really hurts. It’s bad enough when a girl you like unilaterally ends things, but to do it without saying a word really stings. The really question is, why do women do this? Men do it too, but since this article is for men, we’re sticking to why your girlfriend ghosted you. Besides the fact that the women who do this are just rude, disrespectful and cowardly, they do do it for a reason.
Reasons Your Girlfriend Ghosted You
There are a couple of typical reasons a woman will ghost a guy if she’s just not already a cold, disrespectful person.
You Were Over-Pursuing Her
This is probably one of the biggest reasons your girlfriend ghosted you. More than likely, she has at least attempted to communicate to you that she wanted to slow things down. Perhaps she gave you the ‘let’s just be friends’ speech. If she didn’t do any of those things, she most definitely gave you some signs that you were over-pursing. Whatever the case may be, you weren’t listening to her or you weren’t picking up on the signs, and she felt that this was the only way to get through to you. She was already losing attraction and if you kept pursing, it just killed the remaining attraction. Do NOT keep trying, because you’re only making it worse. You just have to let her go and if she has a change of heart she will get in touch.
She Felt Unsafe and/or Uncomfortable
Another possible reason why your girlfriend ghosted you, and this his sort of overlaps with over-pursuing her, is because she was feeling unsafe and uncomfortable with you. Perhaps you were acting or talking in a creepy way, or showing signs of stalker-like behavior. Even giving-off a needy vibe can lead to her feeling this way, because often needy men resort to this creepy, stalker-like behavior. This sort of conduct really scares women and if you spooked her in this way, you really can’t blame her for running away.
There’s An Ex Or Another Guy
Adding to your confusion, there could be an ex or another guy in the picture that you don’t even know about. In a perfect world she should have warned you upfront that there’s someone else, or at least, warned you that she was recently out of a relationship. If she did give you a ‘heads up’, at least it’s a little easier to understand, but still quite rude. If she did not warn you, that makes this even more rude and disrespectful.
The good news in this particular situation is that it more than likely has nothing to do with you. If it’s an ex, she still has an emotional bond with him. Things will not end between them until she is SURE that it’s over. If it’s just another guy, her attraction for him was at least a little greater than it was for you. The likely reason she never said anything to you is so she can keep you as a backup in case things don’t work out. It’s a shitty thing to do, but there’s a good chance that you’ll be hearing from her in the future. It’s up to you if you want to give her another chance, but for now, it’s best to just let her go. Don’t try to win her over or beg for another chance. That only makes you look weak and pathetic, and no woman will ever give a guy like that a chance.
Ghosting Is NOT OK
So, if you’ve been ghosted, these are the typical reasons why it happened. I’m definitely not saying that it makes it ok, because as I’ve already expressed; it’s rude, cruel and disrespectful. However, I’m here to explain why it’s happening and what you can do to potentially avoid it in the future. Of course there’s not much you can do about an ex or another guy coming into the picture besides to be her best option. Yet another reason why you should always be working on bettering yourself, because a woman is always going to go for her best option.
I Can Help You
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