Is surprise romance really necessary? I know many of you who watch my videos & read my articles have taken the red pill. It’s obvious by some of the comments you guys have left. And for the record, I think the red pill is great! Much of what I teach is largely based on red pill fundamentals.
The Red Pill
For those of you who are unaware of what the red pill is, in the simplest terms it’s the true nature of women. In order to have long term success with women it’s important that you understand their nature. They’re not sugar, spice, & everything nice, like society teaches us they are. Don’t get me wrong, I love women, but they have a dark side & they can be quite ruthless. Understanding their nature will really help to protect yourself from their ruthless side. Of course women also have many great qualities, as well. They can be quite loving, caring, & sexy! They’re a lot fun when it’s the right woman.
My point with all this is, the red pill only teaches men about a woman’s true nature, in terms of intersexual dynamics. What it doesn’t talk about is the romantic side of things, which is equally important.
Masculinity Is Key
Much of the red pill instructs men, in one way or another; be a man, don’t take her shit, be the dominant force in the relationship…& watch out or she will cheat on you as soon as you turn your back. While all that is true, outside that she will cheat on you if you don’t keep your eye on her, it’s not the only thing that women find attractive in a man. Women do want a man who knows how to be a masculine man; god knows women are craving real men. However, being an attractive man isn’t just about dominance & self respect. Those are both very important parts of your masculinity, but if you think that’s all it takes to keep a woman attracted, you’re in for a rude awakening.
A Little Romance Is A Must
For one thing, the whole “it’s my way or the highway” attitude will only get you so far with women. It’s kind of hot to women at first, but they will not stick around long term if you have that attitude with her 100% of the time. Of course you DO want to be the dominant force & take the lead in the relationship, but that isn’t about being bully, or never compromising. She will respect you for never bending to her will EVER, but she will not stick around.
You also have to be a loving & kind man, a man of integrity, & throwing in at least a little surprise romance here & there will do nothing but help you. In fact a little surprise romance will plaster a big, happy smile on her face, ultimately causing her to shower you with affection. There’s a good chance that she’ll even shower you with much more, if you know what I mean. 😉
What Is Surprise Romance?
I’m sure most of you are thinking that surprise romance means showing up with a bouquet of flowers, but that’s not what I mean at all; especially if that’s something you do relatively frequently. In fact, for many men, that’s where their romance begins & ends. Part of what causes a woman to fall in love with a man is that he’s not like all the other guys. Flowers have been done to death, & by just about ever guy out there. I’m not saying that you should never get your girl flowers, but you can do much better than that. I don’t necessarily mean that you should do some grand romantic gesture, either.
Surprise romance, or romance in general, doesn’t have to be some extravagant, sappy event. I mean, even cooking dinner together can be very romantic…& memorable. The idea of romance is expressing your love in a fun way that shows her she’s special to you, where it’s exciting & memorable, & preferably a little creative.
Do Not Overdo It
Now, if you surprise her with something romantic all the time, obviously it’s not going to have the same effect as you doing it once in a while. So, clearly this is something that can’t be an everyday thing. Not even an every week type of thing. There’s even little to be surprised about when you do it on special days, like her birthday or valentine’s day. There’s nothing wrong with doing something romantic for her on those days, but the idea here is to SURPRISE her with it.
For you guys who never do anything romantic for your girl, if you surprise her with a little romance it’s going to send over the edge, in a good way. So, it’s a good idea to only do this sort of thing far & few between, & of course when it’s least expected. However, the key is that you only want to do it when you’re both feeling it for each other.
Timing Is Very Important
If you do something romantic for her & she’s asked you for space or you’re on the verge of a breakup, or you have already broken up, she will think it’s nothing more than a pathetic attempt at supplication. In other words, it will not work well at all. Instead, you only want to do this sort of thing when she’s showing clear signs of high attraction.
It’s also important to keep in mind that this should only be done when you’ve already been together for a while. You want to be sure to keep the romance dialed back quite a bit until AFTER consummation. Before consummation, your focus should only be on dates, flirting, having fun, & escalating the physical intimacy. I just wanted to be clear on that so you guys who have just begun dating someone aren’t laying the romance too thick & scaring her away.
Be Creative With Your Surprise Romance
So, if flowers are out of the question, what is a guy to do? This is where your creativity comes into to play. For one thing, act from the heart with this. You’re not doing it just for her, you’re doing it because you’re crazy about her too & you want to show her. This is supposed to be fun for you too. Of course it will be helpful to know what she likes & what makes her tick.
Coming home to house full of burning candles & some getting-down music playing on the speakers may make one girl melt, but another one, not so much. It’s not the same for every woman. Even a woman who does love a room full of candles, but also works at a candle store, might not be as impressed with that as, say, you leaving a little note on the windshield of her car. My point being, know your girl & what she likes, then throw in a little creativity to make it a memorable, romantic occasion.
Remember, It’s A Surprise
This is also supposed to be SURPRISE romance. As I mentioned, you want to do this when it’s least expected. As an example, say you stop at the gas station while she’s with you in the car. You run in to pay for your gas & when you come back out you you’ve bought her a Ring Pop & maybe one of those candy necklaces. Then you slip the ring on her finger & slip the necklace on over her head. See what I mean? It doesn’t even have to cost you a lot of money, or cost you money at all. MOST women are not concerned with the amount of money you spend on them, it’s the gesture & it being memorable that counts.
Let’s say you have one of those inflatable kiddie pools. Fill it up with some blankets & pillows, grab a bottle of wine, & the both of you lie under the stars. That doesn’t cost you a cent & I’m quite certain most women would love to be surprised something like that. So, don’t get caught up in thinking you have to do something expensive, really extravagant, or something super sappy where you’re almost embarrassed doing it. It’s the gesture & you WANTING to do it.
If you do something like this very occasionally, & the timing is right–don’t do this when she’s already slipping away, but when she’s coming towards you–it will only deepen her attraction & love for you. She’ll feel quite special & it’s also something much more memorable than taking her out to a fancy dinner, or buying her a dozen red roses for valentine’s day; something every other guy she’s dated has done.
If you’re drawing a blank about how you can surprise her romantically, just do a Google search for “surprise romance”, or a search for romantic ideas. You’ll know what works for you when you see it. And remember, you want to do something that you feel good about & is fun or you too.
I Can Help You
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