You must learn to own your flaws, because women find insecure men to be very unattractive. Much of guy’s insecurity is rooted in his flaws, or his perceived flaws. Because of this insecurity, many men believe that that one girl is the only one who would love him. He feels that he isn’t good enough, so he does everything he can to keep her interest. This behavior backfires, because it actually causes that girl to lose attraction and pull away due to his insecurity and lack of self worth. The thing is, men don’t realize that if they didn’t think of their flaws as a big deal, women won’t either.
In this article I’m going to explain why you should own your flaws. You will learn how your focus on them negatively affects your relationship overall. I will also show you what you can do so you’re not so focused on them in order to increase and maintain a woman’s attraction for you.
I’m speaking about your physical flaws, because there’s nothing you can do to change them. If you have flaws that you can change, then you should do something to change. You’ll feel much better about yourself, resulting you being more confident and even more attractive.
Confident Men Own Their Flaws
When men hear what women say they find physically attractive in a man they often become insecure if they don’t match up in that department. A big insecurity I hear from men is that, they aren’t tall enough, because they hear women say that they love tall men. Many women do find tall men attractive, but that doesn’t mean that if you’re not tall that you don’t have a chance. All the time women have physical prerequisites in the men they would consider dating. They often end up dating men that have none of those qualities. It happens all the time. I’m sure you’ve noticed. The reason behind that is because those men are confident with who they are despite the physical attributes they lack. They’re confident about themselves because they own their flaws. They don’t think of them as a big deal. Instead they turn their focus to their strengths and project them with their actions and their attitude. This way, women become drawn to these guys for their confidence with their strengths.
How to Own Your Flaws
Say you’re shorter than average, but you have a razor sharp wit. A tall, good looking guy may immediately catch a woman’s attention. However, if he lacks a witty sense of humor, her overall attraction for him will not last. Women will take a good sense of humor over how tall a guy is any day. In the big picture, women will find your wit, and your natural confidence in it, much more attractive than your height.
Now, if you’re continually focused that you’re short and give no attention to the attractive qualities you do have, you’re going to across as someone who is insecure. Women are very attracted to confident men. They are not at all attracted to insecure men. Your insecurities causes you to give off this vibe that you have something to prove in order to make up for what you lack. This is a trap many, many men fall into.
You Don’t Need Women’s Approval
Seeking a woman’s approval only lowers your value in her eyes. The lower your value, the less attractive you become to women, because all women love a man of value. It’s their hypergamous nature to always seek out the highest value man they can attract in order to flourish in life and to produce strong, high value offspring. A high value man doesn’t have to prove his worth or value, because he projects it in his everyday life. A woman is going to notice without him having to tell her or point it out to everyone. He doesn’t focus on his physical flaws, because there’s nothing he can do about it. He owns them, because they’re part of who he is and what makes him unique and interesting.
So, own your flaws. Focus on your strengths. Project your strengths through your actions and attitude, and I promise that women will notice them too. By you not calling attention to the flaws you can do nothing about, women won’t see them as a big deal.
I Can Help You
If you need help learning how to own your flaws, or perhaps you are having some issues with your dating and/or relationships. I can help. Please visit my coaching page and book a private, one-on-one email coaching with me and we will get to the bottom of this and get things turned around for you.
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