This is a great, easy dating tip for building attraction that you can use right away is, ending interactions early and on a high note. Let me explain.
One of the ways men push women away begin almost immediately in the dating process.
You have a high attraction for a girl. You have a great connection with her. She’s beautiful, she’s fun and you’re just really into her overall. And it’s obvious she feels the same way. So, when you’re spending time with her and having a great time, whether in person or over the phone, you just don’t want the interaction to end. Naturally, you want to keep it going as long as possible, because it’s so much fun. You just want to spend as much time with her as possible. I mean, I get it-you’re under that love spell and you just can’t get enough of each other.
The thing is, the more you continue to draw out your time together, combined with spending every day or night that you can, she’s eventually going to get to the point where it’s just too much. At first, she most likely will not say anything about it. Then you will noticed that she begins to be not so available, followed by pulling away all together. Men are left thinking, “What the hell? We were having so much fun together! Why does she not want to hang out as much anymore?”
The reason why she’s pulling away is, because it’s just a bit too much. She’s beginning to become a bit overly familiar with you. Whether or not you realize it, you’re actually communicating to her that not only does she have you, but she can have you whenever she wants. Women like a little challenge and mystery in the man with whom she’s falling for. However, there’s nothing challenging nor mysterious about spending all your time with her.
You Must Pace Yourself
Now, this dating tip is most important when the courtship is just getting off the ground and throughout the dating stage. However, you will also find helpful in your long term relationships, as well. The idea here is to pace yourself. You may remember me saying in my videos that you always want to go at the woman’s pace. However, sometimes she’s super into you. She wants to consume you and as much of your time as she possibly can. Many men will contact me saying that they were going at her pace, but the relationship was going lightening quick. SHE eventually told HIM that things were moving too fast, and men are left confused.
Since you, the man, are the leader of the relationship, the responsibility of the pace falls onto your shoulders. Yes, you do want to go at her pace, but it’s important that you understand, if you have an option to go faster or to go slower with a woman, you always want to choose to go slower.
Dating Tip: End Interactions On A High Note
One great way to do this is to implement an old showbiz trick; ending certain interactions early and on a high note, leaving her wanting more.
Think of cliffhangers on TV shows, or even movies with a sequel or part 2. Just when it’s getting really good and exciting, BAM! It ends. And you’re left thinking, “Dammit!” But, now you can’t wait to see what happens next. You’re thinking about it, anticipating when you can finally get that relief that your mind, or in the case of sexual tension, your body the gratification it craves and desires.
Psychologically speaking, our minds NEED to have those loose ends tied, or it drives us crazy. We can’t stop thinking about it and we often do whatever we can in order to tie up those lose ends and get the answers we crave. And the more a woman is thinking about you and wondering about you, and anticipating when she can finally see and touch you again, or be touched, the more her attraction for you is growing.
You also always want to keep in mind that the way a woman is feeling at the end of your interaction will remain until she interacts with you again. If you end interactions where it’s awkward, or on bad terms, that’s how she will feeling about you until she interacts with you again. However, she’s not going to be rushing to do that again, because she doesn’t fee good about it.
On the other hand, if the interaction ends on a high note; full of fun, excitement and love, she’s going to be daydreaming about you. She will be thinking about you and falling deeper in love with you.
Use This Dating Tip Sparingly
It doesn’t matter if it’s a date, or if you’re just talking/texting on the phone, ending the interaction early and on a high note is going to leave her wanting more of you. Of course you can’t do this all the time, You don’t want to get up and leave in the middle of dinner just because it’s going well. So, you have to use your judgment here.
Try it out and see how it goes. The next time you’re texting/talking on the phone, when the conversation is fun and exciting, and you’re obviously both enjoying the flow, simply tell her that it was great talking to her, but you have some things you need to take care of and you’ll talk to her soon. Then get off the phone.
Or, perhaps one night when you’re on a date with a girl who you’ve been dating for a bit already, and one whom you have already had sex with multiple times. You’re having a great time, say she invites you back to her place, just this one time tell her something similar to, “I’d really love to. Trust me. I don’t want this date to end, but I have to get back. How about I’ll get in touch tomorrow and make plans to see each other again soon?” Then give her a deep kiss and be on your way.
See? It’s not about being so aloof that she thinks you don’t care. It’s about resisting her a bit. It communicates your strength and power.
Frustration Can Be Good
Test it out a bit. Just remember, you don’t want to over-use this dating tip or she will feel that you’re playing games, or that you’re not interested, and perhaps begin doing the same to you. You just want to do this once in a while in order to reestablish frame. She may hate it in the moment, but she will love you for it long term. As I’ve mentioned in the past, it’s better that she be a little frustrated that she can’t have you when she wants, than for you to always be there.
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