One of the reasons so many men have trouble in their romantic relationships is because they chase women. Understand that it’s societal conditioning that has put this idea into men’s heads. Of course women perpetuate this, because who doesn’t like to be chased by the object of your affection? It makes sense logically that men should chase women. It’s well known that men are the aggressors when initiating the courtship. However, once the courtship has been initiated by the man, the more you chase her, it actually turns women off on an emotional level. Sadly, most of society now believes that men are supposed chase women. It’s said that men need to lock them down to a relationship, while women are supposed to play hard to get.
It’s actually men who are the gatekeepers to relationships and commitment, just like women are the gatekeepers to sex.
In this article I’m going to discuss why to chase women is actually working against you. I’m also going to explain why they find it to be a turn-off, and what you should do instead in order to keep her attracted to you.
How Women Chase Men
There are many ways that women subtly and indirectly chase men. As I mentioned, it’s the masculine role to initiate the courtship and begin the dating process. So, you would be chasing her in the beginning. This usually lasts for the first few dates as long as she’s being receptive. If she’s into you, you’ll notice that she will begin to reach out and initiate contact with you more. She’ll say things like, “I was thinking about you” or “I wanted see how your day is”. When she does that, you simply just make the next date. However, you also want to start backing off on initiating contact with her. You do this naturally by turning your focus more towards your purpose in life. It’s not about playing games with her.
You will notice that the communication efforts slowly begin to flip. She will reach out to you more as you’re reaching out to her less. This is a good sign that her attraction for you is growing. In order to maintain this attraction, this is the dynamic that you want; her reaching out to you roughly 70% of the time. When she pulls away, and she will because all women pull away from time to time, then you just back off. You want to give her the time and space to come to you when she’s ready. If you chase women when they pull away, you’re basically communicating to her that she has a higher value than you.
Do Not Chase Women
Women want a man of a high value. Once she begins to believe that you value her more than she values you, her attraction for you will plummet. Why is that? Because women are wired to value men that have a higher value than themselves. This is all part of the grand design to perpetuate the species and evolve. Women want to mate with the the highest value, most dominant male they can attract. Likewise, men want to mate with the most beautiful, nurturing woman they can attract. This is all so women can give birth to strong and beautiful offspring. In turn, that offspring will also mate and give birth to strong, beautiful offspring; and so on.
The only problem with all this is that when we truly love a woman, and we’re emotionally attached to her, it’s not easy to let go when she pulls away. In fact, in can be downright heart-wrenching. So, it’s beneficial to understand a woman’s nature when you chase her.
Women Are Like Cats
I’m sure some of you have heard the “women are like cats” analogy before. For those of you that haven’t heard it, allow me to explain…
What happens when you try to get attention from your cat, but the cat isn’t interested? The cat runs away, hides and you don’t see it for a while. You know your cat still loves you, but you don’t get upset. You just go about your day, doing what you do and forget about it. The cat will return when it wants. Now the cat decides that it now wants YOUR attention. Out of nowhere the cat will just hops into your lap, starts rubbing up against you and begins to purr.
Women really behave in the same way in this context. They’re going to do what they want, when they want and with who they want. You can’t change that, or force them to do it any other way. If you do try to force it, it will only communicate your weakness and your lack of value to her. Ultimately, this turns her off. You communicate your value by letting her go when she pulls away and letting her come to you when she’s ready. Have the attitude that you KNOW that you’re worthy and that she won’t be gone for long.
Internalize Not To Chase Women
Of course, it’s best that you internalize your self worth so you don’t even have to think of handling things like this, as some sort of tactic. It just is what it is. You don’t have to think about it, because you’re confident in yourself and your own high value that you bring her. You don’t have to chase women, nor should you if you want to keep her.
Once the courtship has gained some traction, it’s best for you to have the majority of your focus on your life, passions and goals. She’ll love you more this way, and have more respect for you for not making her the center of your life. That’s WAY too much pressure for her to live up to. She doesn’t want that pressure. She wants to be a compliment to your life, not the center of it.
I Can Help You
If you need help in not chasing women, or perhaps you are having some issues with your dating and/or relationships. I can help you. Please visit my coaching page and book private, one-on-one coaching with me. We will get to the bottom of this and get things turned around for you.
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